Growing up, I was pretty stubborn. It was my way or the highway. And if you would’ve asked me, when I was a child, I would’ve said that I was never wrong. I can still be this way at times, but my parents did a really great job at teaching me the value of admitting that I’m not always right. I’m human, and there are times that I’m very wrong. We all have moments in which we are wrong and where we make mistakes. A hard lesson to be learned in life is the value of admitting that we aren’t always right.
Like I said before, my parents engrained this value into me at a young age… or at least tried to. One reoccurring thing I loved to defend myself on was answering calls/texts/emails. Let me tell you. I was the champion at saying I’d get back with people and not getting back with them. This goes for just holding nice conversations with my friends to even important work communication. I was just terrible at communication (still am not great). Never take it personal if I don’t respond. It’s just one of my downfalls. But I would never admit that I was wrong for not taking up the responsibility to respond to people. My parents would get on to me about it, and I’d argue day and night to prove that it wasn’t my fault. It would’ve saved many arguments to finally surrender to the fact that I was wrong in my actions and needed to work to be better. Admitting your wrong saves you many arguments and honestly just makes you feel better in the end. It feels nice to know that you did the right thing. You’re more respected when you admit that you made a mistake.
As I’ve gotten older and experienced more of life, I’ve seen the true importance of surrendering and finally admitting “I’m wrong” or “I’ve made a mistake. I’m sorry.” . In every kind of relationship, this characteristic is needed. You’re going to make mistakes. It’s inevitable. I can’t tell you how many mistakes I’ve made within my relationship with my family, friends and boyfriend. But for every mistake I’ve made, I can truly say that a lesson has been learned. But even today, within those relationships, I struggle to admit that I’m wrong. It’s human nature. Let’s go back to the first humans on the Earth and see how they reacted when they made a huge mistake.
Genesis 3: 1-13
1 The serpent was the shrewdest of all the wild animals the Lord God had made. One day he asked the woman, “Did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden?”
2 “Of course we may eat fruit from the trees in the garden,” the woman replied. 3 “It’s only the fruit from the tree in the middle of the garden that we are not allowed to eat. God said, ‘You must not eat it or even touch it; if you do, you will die.’”
4 “You won’t die!” the serpent replied to the woman. 5 “God knows that your eyes will be opened as soon as you eat it, and you will be like God, knowing both good and evil.”
6 The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too. 7 At that moment their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness. So they sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves.
8 When the cool evening breezes were blowing, the man[a] and his wife heard the Lord God walking about in the garden. So they hid from the Lord God among the trees. 9 Then the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?”
10 He replied, “I heard you walking in the garden, so I hid. I was afraid because I was naked.”
11 “Who told you that you were naked?” the Lord God asked. “Have you eaten from the tree whose fruit I commanded you not to eat?”
12 The man replied, “It was the woman you gave me who gave me the fruit, and I ate it.”
13 Then the Lord God asked the woman, “What have you done?”
“The serpent deceived me,” she replied. “That’s why I ate it.”
Adam and Eve clearly do not want to admit up to their mistakes. Instead, they point fingers. This proves that from the beginning, human nature causes humans to not want to admit up to their wrongs. We like to be right. We don’t like to feel that we have disappointed. Although, the right thing to do is acknowledge our wrong turn and make it right. My mom and I were talking about this topic, and she mentioned something that really stood out to me. She said that within the workplace there is respect that is given to you when you admit your mistakes. Not shame. Most of the time, there is a solution to what you messed up, and your boss is going to appreciate your integrity. That goes with anything in life. God didn’t create you to always be right. God knows you’re going to make the wrong choices. God doesn’t condemn you for that, but He certainly does value you acknowledging your wrongdoings. Once you recognize where you’ve gone wrong, there are reparations that can be made.
Right now, we live in a world that doesn’t like to be wrong. Our world doesn’t even like to admit we make mistakes, and it’s time to change that. In order to improve our character and live more Christlike, we need to start valuing this characteristic.
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. – 1 John 1:9